Taxing

I haven't slept for twenty four complete hours.
I feel amazing, my body is overly hyper and I feel like I'm about to bounce out of my skin for some reason. The Buspar is gobbled up like Candy once my chest starts to ache in protest. I'm out of supplements...I don't take my Wellbutrin today, I'm actually paranoid to do so. I'm scared to accidentally overdose on them since after all they are the only depression med you can die from if the dose is too high. I keep imaging my slow digestion holding onto the little white pill, letting it settle at the bottom of my intestine. This fear prevents me from taking doses daily..
After my shower and the clock says 6:45 I decided to weigh.
I barely ate anything yesterday and was at 106.
I towel off and hop on my little scale and close my eyes tight in suspense..open and see, 105lbs. Jimmeny Crickets!!
What?
God it feels good!
Finally, feels like 108 was never going away. I don't even care that I will be be running on no sleep today or that yesterday was confusing..
I quickly dress in something warm and the alarm clock goes off. My husband is awake and begins to pray, his usual morning routine.
I poke my daughter and snatch the covers. The cats love this, they start to run this way and that as I shake sheets.
After five minutes of hearing-Mommy I'm tired!
My Lil Miss B. wakes up and takes her little body to the bathroom. I start to make the beds as I am full of energy. I take chicken out the freezer to defrost. My husband gives me a glance and heads to the bathroom himself.
We didn't have much to say to each other last night, after he came home to find me breathing shallow in the bed and eyes dazed and trying to focus he asks me "what's wrong?"
I tell him I don't know, I just feel anxious and odd, more importantly dizzy to no end.
He just says to me in a monotone voice "Stop throwing up already before you kill yourself.."
Oh why didn't I think of that?
He doesn't even notice that today makes a week since I've last done that.
I don't care what he thinks.
I won't lie and say that losing weight isn't starting to poke at me, I'm only five little pounds away from 100..
Five.
Then double digits.
The thing that drives me to that place is not at rest. All these sudden changes that are coming are too much. The Ed is all too familiar and constant.
My fingernails are extra purple, my fingers so thin. I can see every vein on my hands and forearms, the gaps between my fingers make me smile.
I feel on my collarbone a lot, so reassuring like a hard talisman. My hipbones are trying to show now, and my ribs feel like stone.
My face is less puffy now since I've stopped purging, my stomach bloats less too.

Everyone is dressed and school bound except me, I stay behind and clean up. My husband takes awhile to get back home, today we're off to file for income tax.
I get half of whatever is projected.

We're headed to the tax office but first breakfast.
I am not hungry at all, all I have is a few sips of coffee before tossing the rest. Hubby goes all out. He can eat, he can eat anything.
The woman behind the bakery counter asks me three times if I was hungry. I continue to tell her no, in all honesty I wasn't. Normally I would be ruining the moment by ordering something later regretting it and then the eventual purging. Not today, I was on the euphoric high that is not sleeping.
I once went four whole days with no sleep, the first two days are the best. I got a lot done that I never knew I'd been slacking in. The third day was more sluggish, you actually start to notice how long a day is and that it takes a lot to fill it. The fourth day was the scary one, I started to see things that weren't there. I can imagine hallucinations going on further if I'd complete the week with no sleep.
I regretted sipping the coffee, it was bland yet hot, but not what I really wanted. I actually didn't want anything at all.
My husband continued eating his breakfast and making chit chat while I stared out the window and daydreamed. So many people outside all with actual lives, none of them with my upcoming worries.
I was inside the window looking out.

When we arrive at the tax place we're greeted by our friend Elveera. She's been doing our taxes for a few years now. She gushes over my weight loss and of course the usual conversation ensues. I get so tired explaining over and over again at times. I wonder what people would say if I just told them I have an ED and I'm very sick, would they gush then?
The tax preparation takes longer than usual, after the dollar amount is discussed we sign endless amounts of paperwork. During a phone call that Elveera excuses herself from my husband takes it upon himself to mention my car. He wants to fix it up, rims, stereo the works..The Disney Cruise is brought up again and numerous other fantasizes he starts entertaining himself with.
I quietly turn to him and tell him that I can't afford any of that right now, all of my monies are going to bills and car tag transfer/insurance..
My husbands face distorts in confusion and the tension in the room is deafening.
He gets quiet or rather infuriated.
Oh boy here we go.

Elveera comes back now chipper as ever and we're almost done.
Suddenly I don't want to leave the office, I'm not looking forward to the huge argument that's about to ensue in my little yellow car. My daughter is at school and that means he can actually drag this fight out as long as he wishes.
I continue to fidget in my chair as usual, I never stay still, fidgeting means burning calories and I have too much energy today to just sit there.
I'm glad I took the Buspar this morning. I couldn't handle the anxiety right now.
My stomach is gurgling, this makes the second day I have not eaten anything thus far. I don't plan too either. I feel bloated and heavy although I'm 105lbs.
To be honest I'm very uncomfortable and the Fiber from two days ago is nowhere in sight.
If I wasn't thinking straight I would lax. I won't, if I do that well it would turn into a binge and I'd start the abusing again. Today I need an enema.
It's safer than the laxative and a hell of lot quicker. I need relief.
My husband looks mad and I pray he doesn't go upside my head when we get back into my car.
He gets a sudden phone call from the mechanic that distracts him and he starts smiling. I swear the man is Bipolar.
I rub my forehead in frustration, I hate Mondays.
Elveera is back and now we're done. So I have about 3gs coming my way in a week. I can't smile yet, there's a fight looming.
After my husband hangs up with our Mechanic who could be Meatloaf's doppelganger, he's in high spirits and gushing over our tax return amount. He pats me on the back which actually made me jump. Now I was grinding my teeth.
"Be happy, why are you so scared?" he sounds too upbeat. Hmm I don't like this game.
He tells me he has to go home and see the Mechanic to change some spark plugs or something, in he meantime I can get my kid from school and we can go shopping at a store I frequent.
Outside the school and it's funny how times have changed. I remember coming here and actually having someone I looked forward to talking to everyday. Those days are long gone and so is my crush, he's actually in another school far from here. My daughter's first grade teacher comes out first leading the class in a malformed line all the while telling them to be quiet and form a straight line, this only makes the kids nosier and the line more crooked.
My daughter spots me and starts to bounce up and down in excitement. I smile wide. I can never tell if her teacher is in a good mood or not, she always looks the same-mad. Her teacher spots me too and calls out to my daughter. All the little classmates wave at me and tell my daughter look its "B.'s mom, B your Mom is here!" kids make me laugh. My daughter gets Green today and green is good.
In the store now and I can actually break away from my husband and wander aisles. My phone on vibrate means I can ignore his calls. My daughter is with me and talking my ear off. I love how simple she is, she doesn't give me a hard time. We make small talk as she shows me furniture and things she wants me to buy her when she has an actual room in the next apartment. Lately my daughter has been going on and on about the description of our next place. We are going to have not only a pool but also a fireplace! and she wants me to have a big kitchen and a footstool so she can help me bake.
We shop further and it's nice. I manage to buy a new couch. It's a cappuccino colored microfiber one complete with a matching ottoman. The couch was unexpected and my husband and I spotted it at the same time from across the store. We run to it like children and plop ourselves on it as if to say finders keepers!
He looks for the sales assistant and haggles the price. The sales assistant is a very small man in his late fifties. His thick glasses and shiny shoes remind me of Hans Moleman from the Simpsoms lol. This is not his department and he doesn't know how to price the couch. We wait to hear the extravagant number. He says 40$
My husband and I look at each other in disappointment because we thought he meant 40 for both pieces which in actuality meant 80 plus tax. We were wrong. The couch is mines yay!

The couch I loved because it came with an actual Ottoman which meant I could keep my bum knee elevated and find a little bit of relief for a few hours. My knee is awful today. I find books to donate for my daughter's classroom and we're done at this store. I still need a new house phone since my old one was has seen its days of static dropped calls come to and end.
To my Peridot, hmm my little Kiwi Fruit I have no idea how to measure
 A.) a cane B.) Anything.
I know you'd love to knit me a cane sleeve but math and I don't mix.
I can tell you though I now have two canes,  one of my neighbors gave me a very nice vintage looking wooden one which I prefer to the cold leopard print aluminum one. They said it felt better on the leg's pressure and wow they were right.

I finally buy my enema, my husband cringes at the sight of them.
I think he like any man recoil at the sight of anything that may actually puncture their anus.
I've played loads of jokes on him with these things, he falls for it every time.
He always asks me if it hurts and how can it not hurt?
Oh please it's not sodomy for crying out loud. I will walk again lol.
I do fuck with him though, I'll cry out in pain or tell him omg there is something wrong it got stuck!
Lmfao his face!
Not today though, I just wanna be done with the thing.

I get home and have a package waiting for me. My friend and fellow Blogger Samantha has mailed me a scarf. It's white soft fur. It feels really nice. I have to keep it somewhere the cats won't see it otherwise they'd be munching on it.
I love it doll face you're so sweet. I'm going to mail you something in return, I already have three things in mind hehehehe..

Thank you Sammy!

I'd love to tell you that the rest of the night was fantastic, but no.

I got drunk on an empty stomach and my husband and I had a huge blowout.

He was grasping at straws to stay in this marriage. He even told me I could have a boyfriend and see them on the weekends. He's crazy.

Yes it got physical I'm afraid. I'm hungover now and dehydrated, I haven't even weighed yet. I have an awful ache on my left rib. I think I'm going to shower

now and see if it helps. Today makes day 8 no b/p.

Well the day's just started yes, but I have faith I will be ok.

I have two friends who are giving me the cold shoulder on account of my sudden weight loss. Typical ED competitive bullshit.

Oh well I'll be here still when they pop back up five pounds lighter.

I hope you all have a great day and I will try myself, ugh still have hubby around until Wednesday sheesh.

Pray for me.

Confession Time

It's 4:45am and I still haven't been to bed, I just took a Buspar and chased it with a swig of Gatorade.
Sunday made 6days no b/p and that is a great thing. I didn not eat though, not really. Only allowed myself 5 Saltine crackers.
I felt dizzy and was in bed for the most part. Vlogged early and didn't even workout. 106.4lbs today.
Happy Tuesday comes online while I'm in bed having an anxiety attack. He is unaware of the drama on my end and I don't tell him. His curiosity is peaked as he hears another mention of my Twitter Nemesis lol.
So being his usual nosy self, he heads on over to Twitter and reads all my nonsense, even scolding me for jokes that I've made. He keeps insisting to know who is my tormentor and heads over to my Blog confirming what he already knew. My Blog is two years old and ALOT has been said on here, nothing hurtful towards anyone other than myself I'm afraid. In all this time he's never read my Blog (hmm some friend *raises eyebrow*) A few rants on my End that have been happening lately concerning he and I and his roommate makes three.
Men so blind.
Of course I would rant, and say mean things at the time that I am mad, that's what my Blog is for, it's my way to express what I feel, a way to cope with emotions instead of turning to self inflicting behaviors.
I know both my Twitter and Blogger accounts are not private and my words are out there for all to read,I'm just a Google search away, but still I can't help but feel violated. I felt attacked and had to defend numerous posts and things I've written at the time I was mad or feeling something.
I owe him an apology, I am sorry. I am also sorry for being so childish and belittling his roommate who I don't even know yet somehow she hates me, I have no ill content towards the girl, I can't hate on someone I don't know.
But yes it's out there in cyberland for all to read, and have read and no I can't take it all back.

Now what comes next?
Happy Tuesday was obviously mad and hurt although he won't admit to that, I've said hurtful things at times where he for some reason or another has pissed me off.
He took little stabs at me tonight and maybe I deserve it, I don't know.
He says its water under the bridge now and maybe we shouldn't sleep together anymore, he still wants to be my friend but won't be so open with me anymore.
That part hurt, the broken trust, Seeing as I'm such a believer on Trust and here I've now broken it myself.
He had to go and now I don't know what comes tomorrow.

Monday will officially make 1 complete week free from Bulimia. This is big for me.

This is a New Year and you know something I'm ready to start living in every aspect of my life, so one of my goals is to not be so scared anymore.
So here goes.
eh em..

Men are clueless lol..
Oh boy.
If this best friend of mine would come to realize, the only reason why a woman would overreact and behave so foolishly all of a sudden is because something has changed.
So while I am a little bit uncertain, I think I'll just go ahead and say the next statement and see where it takes me..
I am in love with my best friend Happy Tuesday (I think lol..)
Well it has to be that right?
God I suck at this, I don't know it's been such a long time.
What do you call thinking about someone else constantly and wanting their happiness above all. Wishing you could be with them all the time and fantasizing about things down the line?
Missing them like crazy and living off old memories till the next time you can see them and be near them again. Feeling complete just by talking to them.
Other than crazy I don't know what that could mean.

Yes I know I've said he's not boyfriend material, I only say that because I'm not shit either. Let's face it I still have that shackle on my ankle and even though tomorrow we go file taxes and it looks like all systems are go and hubby is adios, we still have the awkward roommate situation to deal with.
I have nothing against the girl but let's face it she hates my guts, I can't even be friends with the guy. He says they are no longer together and that's fine, I don't question that at all, but I think jealousy is getting to be too big for it's britches here.
The ugly monster is doing a number on old Lou here.
I guess both our lives are very complicated and we've always had bad timing.
I'm sorry to say but I can no longer be in his life. I'm very confused right now and I think this thing is getting way outta hand.
I'm really vulnerable right now and I don't wanna get hurt.
So as much as it breaks my heart to not have this wonderful person in my life I think I have to bow out gracefully and wish him a very happy blessed life which I know for certain is right there for him.
How I wish things were different or that he even felt like that for me.


So if you're reading this once again I'm sorry for everything. You're a great man and I love you dearly as a friend and more.
I know I'm taking the coward's way out right now and you all are probably saying-but you said no fear; well guess what I never said that ha!
I said I wasn't going to be so scared anymore.
I'm no longer scared to admit how I feel and am currently feeling.
What I'm currently feeling is stupid, embarrassed and small and if I had a shell I would go in it, but me doesn't have one.
Besides this thing just got so big and awkward now I don't know how a friendship can be mended with all this broken trust. Can I even be your friend with all that I feel, can you say unrequited??
Ugh Women, don't you wish you had a guy best friend, this wouldn't be happening.
Dam hormones and I thought ED was my only problem.

So I've now made my tweets private to make sure no unwanted spam enters my inbox. I don't know about Facebook he (you if you're reading Mr. Nosy who Idk whether to strangle or kiss sometimes @#!!) can delete me if you want same with Messenger. I can't bring myself to do it, you can have that honor, the ball's in my court but hey heads up *throws ball*
I don't feel like a friend right now, not one that's good anyhow.
Don't worry about this old girl, I have the good Lord watching over me, and that's not too shabby. I'll be okay, I always am.
You take care of yourself Happy Tuesday.
Thank you for being my friend, it meant the world to me and I will never forget it or you.
Muah.
Te Quiero Papi..

So I think that's it.
Almost 6am, think I'll workout and go shower now. Lots to do Monday, I'll try to squeeze in a nap and a cry today.

Lots to say Sunday

Slim down Saturday

#FF

Grocery Daze

I woke up at 107.4lbs and couldn't be happier. Two days of no b/p and not eating have budged my weight.
There was an actual freeze warning here last night for Miami, in effect from 1am-9am, the weather is erratic and headed to the 30's and 40's.
I drank last night and had a weird talk with Happy Tuesday. We were both trying to pump information out of each other, he told me that he cared about me immensely. I was trying to coax the words "I love you" outta him but he held back. He was trying to get me to say it, it was a funny conversation. I don't love him, but I do care about him, he's my best friend and I enjoy his company when I can get it. He's not boyfriend material though, he did tell me that we are not fuck buddies, that I am worth more than that. That he wants us to be more than that, he misses me etc..
Ugh I honestly don't know what I feel for him, I'm trying my best not to get attached at all. I don't want to get hurt. He still lives with his ex/Ewok/roomie/fat mess and that's complicated enough. I know technically I'm still married myself and in the process of separating for good and moving on with my life, I'm pretty vulnerable right now.
I have no idea what love is anymore?
What does it feel like, I can't remember?
How can you tell what lust is from love?
So this morning I wake up and it's freezing outside, I get my daughter ready for school and my husband decides to drop her off for me. I'm grateful.
I bring the portable heater next to me on the nightstand and get some more sleep.
My husband comes back home and jumps in my bed to sleep. I hear him dialing on his cell phone, he's calling work and saying he's sick.
Today is Grocery Day, he wants to stay home because he's cold and hungover. There is a basketball game on later today that he would love to watch and eat a hot good meal.
Success for him and I see he smiles and goes back to sleep next to me.
My cats suffocate me, one on my chest and one sleeping on my short hair, they are cold and I don't mind.
I wake up and chat with one of my dearest friends. She has just been released from IP and is having a hard time again stopping the b/p cycle. I feel sorry for her.
I've made it clear to her that I don't condone her losing anymore weight. I love her very much and wish her happiness and health. She is such a good person but the ED has robbed her of everything.
She's trying and that's what matters. I hope she can eat and not purge, no longer go on fasts or take diet pills, try her best to not lose weight because she is already so skinny and emaciated looking.
She needs to be healthy for her 3 babies and her loving husband. I believe in her recovery, I think she stands a chance.

Sometimes I feel like I'm so triggering to her, I don't mean to be, but I'm not sure what I want. I want to be skinny but not sick looking. I'd love to be fit, oh how I love FITSPO

it's hard for me to actually get to that point because, well to be fit means eating healthier and I just don't know how to do that.
I can't remember when is the last time I actually sat down and willing ate a whole meal?
 How can you be fit and not eat? that's just not possible, your body needs things to build muscle, you need to eat.

So it's after noon and I wake up and layer my clothing because it's 40 degrees out, I start with pantyhose then jeans, then two shirts a vest and later a jacket lol..

My hubby wakes up and we get our kid from school and head off to Walmart. He is hungover and has a pissy face which just sours my mood because now I have to be careful what I say to avoid an argument. I hate that I have to walk on eggshells around someone, I'm tired of living this way.
Grocery Day is tiring and long, I have no idea what to buy but manage. We're there practically all day and everything is taking longer because it's crowded and I'm slower than usual on account of my knee and cane. The temperature drops as we're shopping.
My husband is antsy and wants to get home already, he is worried about missing the Miami Heat basketball game and he wants to workout, but before those two things he needs his whiskey.
At home and finally all the groceries have been lugged up three flights of stairs and I've put them all away. I make hot chocolate and fry chicken wings for the family. I can't stand the smell of chicken as it cooks and this deters me in any eating, so I survived another day on nothing but liquids. No food, and more importantly no b/p!

The game is on and my kid is finally in bed, my husband is drunk at this point and is giving me looks. When the game is over he starts talking about going on a Disney Cruise with his tax return, that we should all go. This makes me mad because he keeps making assumptions that we're going to be together, it's like he is playing dumb.
I check my emails then twitter and I'm in shock and appalled of what I find.
The EWOK has done it again. Remember I was a hot nurse and took a pic, well our furry friend had a monkey see monkey do moment. In my post "Abnormal Activity" I refer to this..anyways the cunt did it again OMG!
Lookey here:

Lou being Fabulous!

Now the Ewok:

Epic Fail!

 LOl yeah I doodled on her big face, to protect her identity.. (*tries not to laugh*)

My Husband is real drunk now and starts talking shit and actually grabs my cuca (vagina) and of course this is way outta line, so the fighting starts and doesn't end for two hours. I actually bite his nose, he just made me so mad!
He looked pissed and was trying his best to not go upside my head.
Then he's crying yada yada I get the knife and I'm literally backed into a corner telling him if he comes near me I'll drive this into his stomach or my neck. Yeah I went there, he listened to all I had to say and then agreed for the bazillionth time that we were through and splitting up for good this month. The knife was much but it's the only way he could be quiet and listen to what I had to say, because everytime I would say anything he would counteract with what he wanted MEMEMEMEMEMEEME!!!
Ugh Shut Up!
I'm so tired today and its 50 degrees now. My knee hurts.
My house is full of food and I'm not hungry but dizzy. I bought more shake mix and that's what I'll have if I hungry. Working out today and trying new exercises, I'm so excited can't wait for fitness. I'm sorry this post is so long, hey at least I'm blogging more right?
Love you all, please someone send Prince Charming over here to fetch me already and take me away from all this madness.

Top 10 Weight Loss Mistakes, How to Lose Weight

Today I want to talk about the top ten mistakes that people make when they’re trying to lose weight.

#10
If your weight loss regimen or your weight loss goal is stressing you out, and you are stressing over the number of calories you’re eating or you’re stressing over what the scale says every morning or something, you want to recognize that when your body is releasing a lot of stress hormones and you’re really stressed out, your body is not in a fat-burning mode.
If you are trying to lose weight, one of the very worst things you can do is stress yourself out over trying to lose weight. Now of course we as humans naturally stress ourselves out over things, we’re hard on ourselves, but if you recognize that stressing yourself out is preventing you from losing weight, that will also help you place importance on relieving yourself from stress.
#9
The next mistake is to fall into the trap of wanting instant results, instant gratification- I want to lose 20 pounds in one week. There are definitely some weight loss regimens and different cleanses and things like that that have claims that they are going to help you shed anywhere from 10 to 20 pounds in a week, and while there are definitely some health benefits to some of these cleanses and some of these weight loss regimens probably actually can help you lose that much weight, I just want to point out that “easy come easy go” and the other way around.
If you are losing 10 pounds or 20 pounds in a week, you just want to recognize that this probably not real sustainable weight loss. So most people aren’t just trying to lose weight for a week and then go back to the way they looked, you want to have a sustainable weight loss goal, you want to be on a general trend of losing weight in a health way. This tip is just pointing out that if you’re going for that instant gratification or instant results, it’s probably not going to have a sustainable or healthy outcome.
Doctors in general will recommend that losing one to two pounds per week is healthy weight loss, and losing much more than one or two pounds per week is probably not so healthy, and also is going to result in excess or flappy skin as your body is actually losing weight more quickly than your skin can readjust and tighten.
#8
The next mistake is extreme calorie restriction. Now while restricting your calories or reducing the number of calories you’re consuming will help you lose weight, and while a lot of people can afford to cut back on the amount of calories that they’re eating, if you are on a starvation diet, or you are not eating at all or really severely restricting your calories, not only are you going to be losing fat, but over time you’ll be losing your muscle mass as well, and that’s going to make you weaker and diminish a lot of your strength and stuff, in addition to leading to nutritional deficiencies and leading you to a state that’s pretty unhealthy and pretty unsustainable in terms of not only helping you keep the weight off but helping you maintain a healthy lifestyle. So while calorie restriction in and of itself can be useful in losing weight and in dieting, extreme calorie restriction and starving yourself is a mistake if you’re trying to lose weight.
#7
So when you think about losing weight, what do you think of? Arguably most people think of diets, or dieting, going on a diet, but really in truly while dieting and adjusting the foods that you eat can certainly help prevent you from gaining excessive weight that you might be gaining on a different diet, it’s actually the exercise that helps you to burn fat. So of course eating a healthy diet is very very important and we’ll get to that later, but exercising is crucial, and if you’re expecting to lose weight just by changing your diet and without exercising, it’s certainly possible but it’s really not nearly as affective as making sure that you’re getting 30-40 minutes of good -breaking a sweat, your heart is beating- exercise at least 3-5 times a week.
#6
So on the flip side of that coin, this next mistake is depending solely on exercising to lose weight without changing your diet. Now again it certainly is possible that you could not change your diet at all, and start exercising and actually lose some weight, but it’s important to recognize that as long you are eating foods that promote the storage of fat- so empty calories and high sugary foods, high fatty foods- your body is fat-storage mode and in order for your body to be in a fat burning mode, you’ve got to be burning more than you’re eating. So if you’re not adjusting your diet and you’re not eating a healthy diet of nutrient-dense foods, then your exercising may just be kind of like helping you stay at the same weight or maybe you’re still actually losing weight, but you’re not going to have any real significant weight loss if you’re not adjusting your diet to be more healthy and to eliminate foods that are causing you to gain weight while you’re trying to lose weight.
#5
So when I talk about healthy foods or avoiding foods that cause us to gain weight, I want to bring up the idea of the empty calorie again, and I’ve talked about this in previous videos. When I first heard the term empty calorie, which often describes things that are really high in fat or really high carbs like potato chips, “Oh it’s just empty calories…”
It has this notion like they’re just calories that disappear, they just kind of dissipate into the air and go away. Well no, that’s not what an empty calorie does at all.
Basically an empty calorie just means that it’s empty of nutrition, it doesn’t actually contain any nutrients, or any protein or any of the nutritive elements our body needs and so really that calorie is turning straight into fat. So some calories we eat, our body turns to energy and some calories we eat, your body has nothing to do with it but turn it into fat.
So what is an empty calorie? Maybe it’s easier to think about what is a whole, natural food and I’ve done videos on this as well, but foods that contain whole grains, of course fruits and vegetables which in themselves they are a whole food, these are things that are very nutrient-dense, those calories you ingest them, your body uses them, that’s turning into the energy that’s helping you run later that day. Whereas when you’re eating refined sugars, refined carbs, hydrogenated or highly processed oils, these are empty calories. Basically that’s your junk food, your fast food, there’s like I said another video about this as well, but this mistake is eating the wrong things, you’re still eating empty calories, you’re still eating things that are causing you to gain weight and it’s definitely not going to be helping you to lose weight.
#4
The next mistake is going on a low fat or no fat diet. The truth is our bodies need fat to make things like our brain cells; in fact all of the cellular membranes of every cell in our body contain a layer of fat, so it’s really important that we are incorporating good. healthy fats into our diets. So that’s omega-3 fatty acids, avocados have a lot of really good healthy fat in them. If you are under the impression that fat in equals fat on your body, I just want to point out that most of the weight that is on our bodies is actually coming from carbs, so you hear about a beer belly or about eating potato chips.
When we are eating carbohydrates and especially when we’re eating refined carbohydrates, or processed foods, that turns directly into fat. So you can just kind of look at that bag of potato chips and picture it on your belly, but if you’re feeling like “Oh no I can’t eat any fat, I’m trying to eliminate fat from my diet,” that’s a big big weight loss mistake. Not only is it going to be unhealthy for you, but it’s not really helping you lose weight. What you want to do is be focusing on reducing the amount of empty calories, of refined carbohydrates from your diet, and really having a balanced diet all the way around without eliminating any one thing from your diet at all.
#3
The next mistake is to rely on the nutritional claims made on the packaging of foods. So there’s Diet Coke, there’s fat-free this, there’s almost always a fat-free or diet version of any unhealthy food that you find, and there’s a couple things I want to point out. A) A lot of times whatever they are doing to the food to make it “fat free” or “sugar free” is often way less healthy for you—so we’re talking about artificial sweeteners, hydrogenated oils, and these different short cuts that companies can do to their food so that they can put that claim on there, doesn’t necessarily make it a healthier food for you.
Secondly, it’s really easy for us to see something like “diet” or “low fat” and our brains to go “Oh this is going to help me lose weight or this is a health food.” But a Diet Coke is still NOT a health food, it’s going to spike your blood sugar and make you hungry, it’s going to have a lot of artificial sweeteners in it which have their own slew of health problems. So it’s kind of a decision for us to just recognize that just because it has a nutritional claim doesn’t mean it’s healthy for me or doesn’t mean it’s going to help me lose weight. In one of my previous videos about whole and processed foods, I said that whole, natural, healthy foods don’t make nutritional claims because they’re just plain nutritious, and that kind of comes in here as well, which is that we don’t want to be relying on nutritional claims made on a packaging when it’s still a processed, unhealthy food.
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The next mistake would be turning to some kind of prescription or over-the-counter drug or supplement that’s claiming it can help you lose weight. Fen Phen a couple years back was a really big one that ended up with really bad results and going off the market and everything. So I’m not real familiar with a whole lot of the different drugs that are out there now and certainly your doctor could let you know if there are some that really can help you with healthy weight loss, but in general I would say turning to over the counter drugs or anything like that is not a good idea, because we don’t really know exactly what all the different side effects are and in a lot of cases the side effects they do know about are bad enough already, but ultimately they just don’t always know what the long terms effects of a lot of these drugs are, and that is really scary to us when looking at our health down the road. And also I don’t believe that most of these drugs are going to give you the sustainable, prolonged weight loss that most people are looking for. By far the best way to lose weight in a healthy sustainable way is exercising and altering your diet to contain more healthy nutritional foods, and relying on drugs to do it for you is probably just going to make it worse.
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The last mistake that I want to address is going “on a diet” in general, which is that you’ve maybe put yourself in a mindset of “I’m going to go on this extreme diet for this amount of time and I’m going to lose all this weight,” and it may work, you may go on that extreme diet and lose a lot of weight but its really, probably not very sustainable, and as soon as you go back to living your lifestyle the way you’ve been living it up until now, all that weight is going to come back. So this tip is about getting out of that “in a diet” “on a diet” mindset and just recognizing that simple, sustainable changes to your lifestyle and to the way that you’re living on a day-to-day basis are going to go a lot longer in helping you lose weight and keep it off looking down into the future.
So the diet mindset makes us feel like “I’m going to be starving all the time and its going to be really horrible;” just the word “diet” in general brings up a lot of pain for a lot of people. So if you can realize that you don’t have to go on some extreme diet to lose weight, you can actually make small, sustainable changes to your lifestyle that are going to help you lose weight and keep it off and you will be on your way to losing weight sooner than you even know.